Pride

Pride is often driven by poor self-worth and shame. We feel so badly about ourselves that we compensate by feeling superior. We look for others' flaws as a way to conceal our own. We relish criticizing others as a defense against recognizing our own shortcomings

Pride gives others that feeling with its "better than you" implications. Humility has the opposite effect. If you put others above yourself, they'll feel good whenever they're around you.

So let's talk about the problem of pride. The first and biggest problem with pride is that God hates it.

Proverb 16:5 says, "The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished."

There are few things the Bible talks about God hating, but God's hate for pride is repeated several times in the Scriptures.

God not only hates pride, but he actively opposes it. "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."- James 4:6

The reason God hates pride is because the proud person tries to displace God. Pride, at its core, is idolatry of self. A proud person has put himself or herself in God's place. Pride is when you try to take God's place. And God will not share his glory with another. God hates pride.

If we have pride in our lives, we may find the following symptoms:

1. Fault-Finding

While pride causes us to filter out the evil we see in ourselves, it also causes us to filter out God's goodness in others. We sift them, letting only their faults fall into our perception of them.

When I'm sitting in a sermon or studying a passage, it's pride that prompts the terrible temptation to skip the Spirit's surgery on my own heart and instead draft a mental blog post or plan a potential conversation for the people who "really need to hear this."

2. A Harsh Spirit

Those who have the sickness of pride in their hearts speak of others' sins with contempt, irritation, frustration, or judgment. Pride is crouching inside our belittling of the struggles of others. It's cowering in our jokes about the 'craziness' of our spouse. Christians who are but fellow-worms ought at least to treat one another with as much humility and gentleness as Christ treats them.

3. Superficiality

When pride lives in our hearts, we're far more concerned with others' perceptions of us than the reality of our hearts. We fight the sins that have an impact on how others view us, and make peace with the ones that no one sees. We have great success in the areas of holiness that have highly visible accountability, but little concern for the disciplines that happen in secret.

4. Defensiveness

Those who stand in the strength of Christ's righteousness alone find a confident hiding place from the attacks of men and Satan alike. True humility is not knocked off balance and thrown into a defensive posture by challenge or rebuke, but instead continues in doing good, entrusting the soul to our faithful Creator.

5. Presumption Before God

Humility approaches God with humble assurance in Christ Jesus. If either the "humble" or the "assurance" are missing in that equation, our hearts very well might be infected with pride. Some of us have no shortage of boldness before God, but if we're not careful, we can forget that he is God.

6. Desperation for Attention

Pride is hungry for attention, respect, and worship in all its forms.

Maybe it sounds like shameless boasting about ourselves. Maybe it's being unable to say "no" to anyone because we need to be needed. Maybe it looks like obsessively thirsting for marriage - or fantasizing about a better marriage - because you're hungry to be adored. Maybe it looks like being haunted by your desire for the right car or the right house or the right title at work: all because you seek the glory that comes from men, not God.

7. Neglecting Others

Pride prefers some people over others. It honors those who the world deems worthy of honor, giving more weight to their words, their wants, and their needs. There's a thrill that goes through me when people with "power" acknowledge me. We consciously or unconsciously pass over the weak, the inconvenient, and the unattractive, because they don't seem to offer us much.

Maybe more of us struggle with pride than we thought.